A Breakdown of My Coaching Model: Name It, Own It, Feel It, Live It
Updated: Mar 9, 2020
My coaching model, Name It, Own It, Feel It, Live It, is for you, and about you. I developed it with you in mind, as a way to guide a conversation about your past, present and future.
My model is based on the core values of Trust, Communication and Accountability, and celebrates the human experience. Ultimately, everyone around you relies on you to be the best possible version of yourself. This model recognizes that truth exists to steer you towards achieving that very important objective.
I use this model in our coaching sessions to help you eliminate the noise, the excuses and the fear, so that you can unlock and seize your potential.
Here, I break down how the model works as a tool to unlock your human potential.
The top half of the wheel is your Human Intelligence – your IQ. The bottom half is your Emotional Intelligence, or your EQ. The four sections represent the four stages of unlocking your potential, which surround the core values of Trust, Communication and Accountability.
These values must inform everything you do, and when we work together through the model, we ensure that all your decisions and actions reflect these values.
4 Stages of the Model
Unlocking your potential starts with Naming It. What are you naming? Your goals, your priorities, your vision. To successfully crystallize what you’re naming, it’s vital to first eliminate the noise – all that “stuff” that gets in the way of achieving your best self. You want to focus your attention on the facts and cut out what’s not important to you, and what can get in your way.
Through fact-finding, we would discuss your priorities and identify your top three as they align to your core values. At this stage we create an action plan to ensure your expectations can be met.
Once you figure out what you’re doing, you have to determine your next steps. How will you get there? In this stage, we eliminate the excuses. If that proves difficult, we go back to Naming It until we can find a way forward.
During the Own It stage we also put SMART goals into place. Goals that are Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Relevant and Time bound.
Trust is a critical element here, as you need to trust in yourself – you must trust that the decisions you are making are the right ones to uphold your integrity.
You’re also trusting in your knowledge, communicating your action plan, and being accountable for your credibility
Once you have Named It and Owned It, the next thing you have to do is pause. It’s time to breathe and embrace your five senses. Why is this so important? To achieve a positive emotional expression and well-being, you need to listen to what’s going on inside, rather than only what’s going on outside.
Questions to ask yourself at this stage include: Am I really aware? Am I going to explode? Or can I calm down and focus on what’s really happening? Perception is key at this stage, as you need to be aware of what’s going on around you, and how you are showing up to the people in your life.
The Live It stage is about putting your legacy into action. We focus on how you can lead by example and use empathy to connect with others and nurture relationships. We discuss the importance of recognizing, understanding and appreciating the feelings of others. During the Live It stage, we emphasize how you are holding yourself accountable for how you show up.
My Coaching Model is just that – a model, or a framework on which we base a deep dive discussion about you, your goals, your potential, and any obstacles in your path. I created it to help guide our conversations and ensure we remain on track to unlock the best version of yourself.